My quarter life crisis can kiss my ass

As I am sitting by myself, on a Sunday night watching Real Housewives of New Jersey. A guy friend, asks me "why are you single?"

My smart ass comment, like all my comments was "because I want to be".  I'm also saying this while my ass is glued to the couch, stuffing my face with ice cream snickers bars. Then I started to think about why I was really single, sitting alone on my couch with chocolate smeared on my face and why me friend thought it was so odd. It's not odd! Right? I am single because I was not happy and instead of staying unhappy I left a best friend of 6 years. It was the hardest thing to do but I have heard sometimes the hardest choices to make are the right ones. Also, anyone who says that can go fuck themselves. I am miserable and miss him. Even though I know I shouldn't and everyone who knows the relationship I had, also knows there isn't much to miss.

How can someone treat you so shitty and yet you miss them? I don't blame him or hate him for who he is. I just couldn't accept him and he couldn't accept me. We loved each other but when it came down to it we were just two different people. Over those 6 years we didn't grow together we grew apart but still wanted each other in our lives. If you think about it...it's really fucking stupid which makes me feel really fucking stupid.

I know I am not a stupid person. I was smart enough to walk away from a relationship that most people would say was a pretty sweet deal looking from a far. So now I am alone and it is weird. I wouldn't be alone unless I wanted to be and I shouldn't feel bad about it or less of myself. At this point in my life I am really evaluating where I am and what I need. What I need? I have no clue...hence the quarter life crisis. A life crisis is when you start panicking about what the fuck you have been doing with your life right? I honestly thought I would have accomplished more by 25 but obviously its time to makes some changes and set a few new goals.

What should I do? What ever I want, like drink as much whiskey as possible and then plan the Botox I am going to need later in life for drinking to much whiskey.  Oh wait. I thought I was suppose to be setting some new goals...aw fuck it. Where is the whiskey?

What I want most of all is to move on from the feelings I still have for my ex. Makes me sick to my stomach just thinking about it.

Can Tom Hardy please just come and sweep my off my feet already?!  Yes, I would accept him as my pineapple...

Tom Hardy...will you please be my pineapple and save me from my dramatic quarter life crisis?

-Wishing Tom Hardy was my pineapple

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